Hey, today's post a bit realistic (maybe absurd too?). lolololl..ok today i would like to share a lit bit of my perspective towards love & relationship (hehe). As you can see i have lot of emotional posts in my previous years (HAHA), Let's just say, I'm young by that time ok (uh what an excuse).
It's like my only way of expressing my emotion after bugging people with it..cause i dont really post my unstable emotion(by that time) in facebook or where ever. So blog the shits instead, that's pretty much explained all these bullshits in my older posts ;p
So as times goes by, as I grew older (ahem) and get busy and super busy with lots more things to worry of (instead of love love and boys boys), i came to realize that life is more than just relationship duhh... But today, let's talk about "Dating a college guy vs Dating a working guy" from my own perspective...ok?
A college/university guy (whatever as long as still studying and not working full time)
He always free. How can he not? Especially if he is not the nerdy type, well even if he is, he still got time. I attended a private uni and has more friend from private uni. Most of the time our classes not the morning to evening/night time. I don't know about you but in my circles, it always either only morning or only evening. Even if there's time when its full day,still....there's always time for dating HAHAHAA... and of course, semester break is a bonus (except if we back to our hometown). But speaking if we are not, this the time where you walk or get together like 24/7 ? lolololl... And unless he is working part time then you might see him when he's free but still alot of times. Basically free all the time.
2. Free spirit
He's a free spirit. He has nothing to worry of. It explains a lot cause we all still studying, apart of worrying the upcoming exam and maybe about working which is still far away. There's nothing else to worry. Money? he has his parents and also the loan/allowance/etc etc. There's no concern about money even if you are not earning (amazing isn't it?)
He seems the coolest guy in town (speaking of crush). When he hit you back, you just feel like omggg he spot me ..omggg i'm going to be the prettiest/coolest/hottest girl in town after dating this awesome guy in town. He's young but all you thought of, he's so charming, "mature" and all that. He's just so perfect in your eyes.
4. Sorry baby/babe/honey/sweetheart/sugar/bunny/bubu/BAE/whatever sweet you said it
Ok let's be honest, during my college times, Bae doesn't exist. Even if it does probably because Bae is a name or simply a typo from babe hahahahhaa. So what i'm trying to say is, this young guy always going to rain you with lots of beautiful words that makes you melts all the time. Yes that's right by calling you all these sweet names to saying something that sound so poetry and also keep apologizing to even the smallest thing possible. They seems so sweet and leaving us with all the floating heart shapes all around our head, eyes, and heart..You know those awww feeling. Just awww...
A working guy (working full time or lets say older than you)
He's working 8 hours day or maybe more. He filled his days with works. By the time he finished work, he already tired. We understand that, if we are working too. As we started working we got really tired and ugh we need some rest after a full day of work. Even the work start at 8am and finish by 6pm. That's not how he's everyday routine start. If his house away from his office, he have to get up earlier, get ready (no need so much time for this lol), and start driving out to avoid/get through the traffic jam. By 6 o clock in the evening, he still have to drive home...and sometimes he might wait till 7pm or 8pm for extra working hours or simply to avoid the peak hours. He don't always have time in the weekdays. Weekend is a bonus. He's free and this is where you can hangout/date with him :)
2. More oriented
He's no longer a free spirit. By this time, the guy already know what he wants in his life. He has goals for long term (just maybe abit blurry,but he knows). He works toward that goals, be it earn more and more, buying cars/houses/etc etc, He simply has something in his minds. Plus, he is independent. He don't have loan, in fact he has to pay loan (lol). No more parent to support him financially, so he is more oriented on his spending. This is where his responsibility traits come along. You know, you gotta work to earn...you have to be concern on the money this time,.no more amazing thingy happened. (sadly)
Instead of acting cool. He prefer smart. Smart as in style and also attitude. Working guy tend to be more honest. Instead of acting cool 100% times in front of you. This guy will literally just fart in front of you (hahaha i dont know how is that smart). JK. Ok smart as in he will advice you when you to whatever you doing. Be it when you do something wrong or when you slack over something. But most importantly when you ask for the advices, instead of showering you with lots of comfort, he will tell you the ugly truth, helps you at his best, open your eyes to the real world and try to guide you to something good.
4. Let's talk/discuss about it baby/insert name here
While there's still guy out there will say the sweet things to you, like how the young guy did. I realized when they started working, there's just no more super duper sweet thingy anymore (they probably found it cheesy at this age). Instead of just saying "sorry baby i won't do it again" all over again over text messages, this guy will talk to you face to face and actually discuss with you what is wrong, what is the point of the argument, what are we arguing for again, why why and why. Eventually try to solve and not repeating the same thing (although it actually might repeat,cause relationship always like that lol). There's no more awwww feeling in terms of sweet words but maybe more in his actions. They tend to react more than speak out this time. Safe to say there's more "wow he actually care/love me" compare to "aww you such a sweetie muchoo muchoo miao miao"
After re-reading I think some of this actually apply to girls too hahaha...
Well, that's just a little bit of my point of views. You might find it ridiculous or err i don't know.
Whatever it is, you have your own perspective, so it is totally up to you.
Share your thoughts and let me know :)